Any fellow football fans out there???

We LOVE football at our house.  The Superbowl feels a little like second Christmas to us as we gather with amazing friends, watch the game we love, and eat WAY too much yummy food!

Both my husband and our son played college football, and I played college volleyball, so we know a little something about sports, and the mentality it takes to perform at a high level.

When it’s game time, you play to win.  You trust in your abilities and focus on the result you want to achieve, which is that winning score.

Can you imagine if Tom Brady, (my favorite QB of all time) started to worry between each play, “What if I get tackled, what if I get hurt?”  

What a disaster that would be right???

No.  When the players step on the field, they know each and every play is going to involve some pain.  Their lungs and muscles and going to burn with exertion. The hits are going to be hard...

One of the things I coach an awful lot on, is the idea of what is “normal” or “not normal.”

I was coaching a client recently who has some very strong beliefs about what a “normal” sex life should be, between she and her husband.  She was really beating herself up because of her lack of interest in physical intimacy.

She believed there was something very wrong with her.

She had thoughts like:

“Normal women want this, there is definitely something wrong with me.”

“I’m not a “good” wife….”

“I should want to be more attracted to my husband.”

And then, when she was tired of beating herself up over her lack of desire, she would turn her blame onto her husband with these kinds of thoughts.

“All he cares about is sex.”

“If he loved me he would care more about what I need.”

Do you see the problem?  When we have firm ideas about what is...

Man oh man I LOVE this time of year!  I love the peace and quiet after the rush of the holidays and the time I get to spend by myself to contemplate the previous year.  

I love quietly celebrating my wins and finding gratitude for the lessons that were hard and required me to grow.  And more than anything, I love feeling that divine spark within me that compels me to look ahead, and create a vision and a plan for my future.

What is that compelling nudge?  Where does it come from?

If you believe as I do, that we are created by God and therefore His children, then you might believe that nudge is the divine spark within us, pulling us forward like a moth to the flame.  

If we are divine by birthright, it is only natural that we have an internal compass that will point us to growth and push us to become the best version of ourselves.

It’s human nature to want to skip to the end.  To make the jump from caterpillar to butterfly without...

I’ve been thinking long and hard about the message I wanted to share with you this beautiful week of Christmas. 

There are so many reasons we celebrate; the love of family and friends, the blessings of hearth and home, the music, the lights, the traditions that bring us joy… but the one I embrace the most is hope.

To me this is the greatest gift of all.  Because of our Savior, we have 2nd, 3rd, 20th and even 100th chances.  Because of Him, we can be renewed. There is no such thing as too far gone or beyond repair. We can heal what has been damaged, change our ways, reignite our faith and find sunshine after rain.

One of my clients recently expressed to me that this is the first Christmas in many years, that she and her husband are enjoying each other and enjoying Christmas together.  She has spent the past several months working with me, learning the tools, applying the concepts and doing the work, and it is paying off BIG TIME! When she...

BLAMING SOMEONE ELSE FOR THE CHOICES WE MAKE OR THE WAY WE FEEL, IS LIKE SUPERMAN HANDING OVER HIS CAPE!

When we blame someone else for the results in our lives, we give up all of our power. 

When we place blame, we are choosing to believe that we are not the creator of our own lives, but rather, at the effect of someone else’s wishes. I don’t know about you, but that sounds horrible to me!

Do you blame him for making you delay your career to stay home with the kids?

Do you blame her for making you feel angry or offended?

Do you blame the weather for your rotten mood?

Do you blame the politicians for your lack of success in your job?

Do you blame him for your frustration, your loneliness, your disappointment?

No one and no thing, has the power to make you feel anything you don’t want to feel.

Your thoughts create your feelings, it’s a biological fact.  A thought causes two neurons to connect and release a flood of chemicals that create a...

When I was a kid, our family home was on a beautiful wooded lot in the Orem river bottoms.  It was really quite idyllic with a stream running across the front, tall Cottonwoods trees and a gorgeous hill behind.  It felt like the perfect place for our family and pets.  

Our next door neighbors were our cousins and we spent hours roaming the hill and playing all kinds of outdoor games on our huge combined yard… you see, there was no fence dividing our properties.  

As kids, we thought this was the perfect setup, but for our parents, not so much.  Tempers were fueled when the dog made a mess on the wrong lawn, or when it someone accidentally put a hole in the trampoline, or perhaps when one yard wasn’t cared for as well as the other… 

People say good fences make good neighbors, and the same could be said for having boundaries in relationships. 

SETTING PROPER BOUNDARIES CAN ACTUALLY CREATE MORE LOVE IN A RELATIONSHIP.

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