What happens when you still love your spouse, but you don’t really like your marriage anymore?

After years of raising children, managing a home, working, solving problems, and navigating life together, many couples slowly become good partners but stop being lovers, friends, and deeply connected companions.

That’s exactly where Jane Copier found herself in her own marriage.

In this episode of Happy in the Middle, Jane shares the vulnerable story of realizing that she loved her husband but didn’t want to spend the rest of her life in the marriage they had created. Rather than settling for emotional distance, she and her husband made the courageous decision to let their old marriage die so they could intentionally create something new.

Jane explores what it really takes to restore intimacy, including the often-overlooked connection between the thoughts we think about our spouse, the feelings those thoughts create, and the actions we take toward them.

You’ll discover why proximity isn’t intimacy, why resentment can change the way we see our spouse, and how becoming genuinely curious about the person your spouse has become can begin to bring aliveness back into your relationship.

Most importantly, Jane offers hope: a cold marriage isn't necessarily a dead marriage. You may not be able to recreate the marriage you had when you were younger, but you can create a new marriage that is more intentional, honest, connected, playful, and intimate.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why loving your spouse and liking your marriage can be two very different things
• What “marriage drift” can look like in everyday life
• Why proximity alone doesn't create intimacy
• How our thoughts and stories about our spouse influence our desire to turn toward them
• How resentment can become the lens through which we see our partner
• The difference between positive thinking and choosing more generous, truthful thoughts
• Why emotional intimacy requires honesty, curiosity, vulnerability, and presence
• How physical and sexual intimacy can grow from emotional connection
• Why the goal isn't to get your “old marriage” back
• How to begin creating a new and more alive marriage together

If you've been thinking, “This is us,” Jane invites you to join her free Marriage Masterclass, Why Good Couples Slowly Grow Apart, where she'll unpack why loving couples drift apart, and the simple habits that can help them find each other again.

Because sometimes the marriage doesn't need to end, the old version of the marriage does.

And something better can take its place.

Join Jane for her FREE Marriage Masterclass:

"Find Each Other Again" A fun and informative 60-minute workshop to help you and your partner learn to reconnect.

You'll discover why loving couples can lose emotional connection, the patterns that create distance, and simple shifts that can help you begin finding your way back to each other.

And if you can, come with your spouse.

Make it a date night. Sit beside each other. Give your marriage one hour of your attention, -not because your marriage is broken, but because it matters.

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AND, if you and your spouse love each other but want more connection, better communication, a stronger friendship, deeper intimacy, and a healthier partnership, learn more about Marriage Reset, Jane's eight-week guided coaching experience for couples who want to find their way back to each other.

Learn more and register for Marriage Reset Here

And be sure to tune in in the following weeks for the Rest of this Six Part Series.

Coming next:

Shared Values, Vision & Purpose — How to move from simply getting through life together to asking, “What are we building together?”

Because you don't need a perfect marriage, you need an intentional one.

Get my FREE Marriage Reset Starter Kit: https://www.jane-copier.com/StarterKit 

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Welcome to Happy in the Middle, with your host, The Christian Marriage Coach, Jane Copier. 

I’m Jane Copier, and you're listening to Happy in the Middle,  a podcast for Christian women navigating marriage, family relationships, and the beautiful work of becoming who God created them to be. As the Christian Marriage Coach, each week I offer practical tools and faith-filled conversations to help women just like you, create deeper connection, healthier communication, and a life, -and marriage, they love to coming home to.  Let’s dive in!

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