This is something I’ve been doing a lot of coaching on lately, so I thought I’d share.
Our opinions really matter to us. Most of us feel very strongly about a lot of things, and it makes us feel bad when others don’t agree with us.
But wait a minute… does IT make us feel bad? Or is it what we make it mean, that makes us feel bad?
When you are arguing with your spouse (or anyone else for that matter), do you find yourself digging in? Do you feel the need to defend your position? Do you make being wrong a character flaw?
Consider this, -perhaps you are both right? He sees a lantern and you see flowers. Both are true and correct. What if you could just get curious about why he sees the lantern?
Was the way your family raised you best?
Did you celebrate holidays in all the right ways, and his family just didn’t?
Do you have the right ideas about how to raise the kids, load the dishwasher, plan a vacation or install the toilet paper...